Spoiler alert: Parenting is not just a baby-making game!

February 22, 2025
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Failing to plan for a child can lead to burdens that affect both the parents and the child for years to come.
​​​​​​​​​As of February 2024, a total of 509 cases of baby dumping were reported in Malaysia, with investigation papers opened by the Royal Malaysian Police (PDRM). 

Let’s get real: parenting isn’t just about seeing someone you find attractive, having a fling, and then poof—there’s a baby. It’s a monumental responsibility that requires serious planning, emotional maturity, and financial stability. Many people mistakenly believe that having a baby will bring financial blessings or that love alone is enough to raise a child. Spoiler alert: it’s not. Failing to plan for a child can lead to burdens that affect both the parents and the child for years to come.

If you’re considering parenthood, here are several hard truths and aspects to seriously think about before you make that leap.

1. Financial stability is non-negotiable
Let’s cut to the chase: babies are expensive. From diapers to daycare, formula to healthcare, the costs add up faster than you can say “diaper rash.” Before you even think about bringing a child into this world, you need to assess your financial situation.
  • Budgeting: Know how much you currently earn and spend. Can you afford the additional costs?
  • Emergency fund: Do you have savings set aside for unexpected expenses? Because trust me, they will come.
  • Insurance: Health insurance is a must. Make sure you’re covered for prenatal care, delivery, and pediatric visits.

2. Emotional readiness
Having a child isn’t just a physical act; it’s an emotional commitment. Are you ready to sacrifice your time, freedom, and sometimes sanity?
  • Relationship stability: Is your relationship strong enough to handle the stress of parenting? Babies can strain even the healthiest partnerships.
  • Mental health: Are you in a good place mentally? Parenting can be overwhelming, and you need to be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster.

3. Support system
You can’t do it alone. You need a solid support system in place.
  • Family and friends: Are there people you can rely on for help? Whether it’s babysitting or emotional support, you’ll need it.
  • Community resources: Look into local parenting groups or classes. Connecting with others can provide invaluable support and advice.

4. Long-term commitment
Parenting is a lifelong job. Are you ready for that kind of commitment?
  • Education: Think about the long-term costs of education. Are you prepared to save for college?
  • Time: Children require time—lots of it. Are you ready to put your own needs and wants on hold?

5. Lifestyle changes
Get ready to say goodbye to your old life.
  • Social life: Your nights out will likely turn into nights in. Are you ready for that?
  • Self-care: Your self-care routine may take a backseat. Can you handle that?

Bringing a child into the world is a serious decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It requires planning, financial stability, emotional readiness, and a strong support system. If you’re not prepared, you risk creating a burden for both yourself and your child. So before you jump into parenthood, take a long, hard look at your life and ask yourself: Are you really ready for this?

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