(Ask a Dr) Did I cheat on my husband by having cybersex with another man? 

June 28, 2021
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It is estimated more than 5 million persons in America are addicted to cybersex and this has become one of the cause of marital discord or marital breakdown.
Question
My husband is always away on business trips and I’m always feeling lonely. A few months ago, I started chatting with a man on the Internet. One thing led to another and we progressed to having cyber sex. I felt guilty after that but it’s not that we actually did anything physical right?

​Did I really cheat on my husband by doing that? 
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​Here's your answer​
By Dr Mohd Ismail Mohd Tambi
Andrologist, Damai Service Hospital
It is estimated more than 5 million persons in America are addicted to cybersex and this has become one of the important problems marital counselors are handling as a cause of marital discord or marital breakdown.

​This is starting to be an issue here in our own home ground. Cybersex or computer sex or net sex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via a computer network send one another sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience.

It is a form of role-playing in which the participants pretend they are having actual sexual intercourse, by describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. It sometimes includes masturbation.

In some contexts, cybersex is enhanced by the use of webcams to transmit real-time video of the partners. Debate continues among moralists on whether cybersex is a form of infidelity. While it does not involve physical contact, critics claim that the powerful emotions involved can cause marital stress, especially when cybersex culminates in an Internet romance. In several known cases, Internet adultery became the grounds for which a couple divorced.

With the above information, I hope you are well inform of the risk you are taking. You can stop this activity immediately before it harms your marriage. You can develop a long distance relationship with your husband to keep the passion flowing and be intimate when he is around you. This can be done through internet cybersex with him or through SMS.

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